My husband and I married young also. We were both 20 and undergrads in college. Then we had a baby while my husband was a grad student. I became a stay at home mom. We definitely grew up together. Now we have five children. Three are adults in college. We have been married for 29 years!
Love this! I only ever wish I had met my husband sooner. (Still, getting married at 25 is fairly young these days!) I could write a similar post but on how the old "wait to have children" is, quite often, bad advice.
I married at 24 (my husband was the same age) which to me isn't all that young but apparently others think so!
I think the essential truth here is that marriage always involves a little risk. It's always possible that your spouse will hide something from you or betray you (as scary as that is)! I think most of the objections to marrying young boil down to the reality that people think if they move in together, date for nine years, and keep separate bank accounts, they can somehow outwit human nature and guarantee that their spouse will never hurt them. But you can't. You have to have faith. You have to commit!
Every year I appreciate Charlotte Lucas more: "Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. If the dispositions of the parties are ever so well known to each other or ever so similar beforehand, it does not advance their felicity in the least. They always continue to grow sufficiently unlike afterwards to have their share of vexation; and it is better to know as little as possible of the defects of the person with whom you are to pass your life."
“they can somehow outwit human nature and guarantee that their spouse will never hurt them” - This is such a great insight! I had never thought of it as fear-based behaviour but I can see that on many levels it is.
I love this Wendi, so sweet! My husband and I met at 18, we're celebrating 15 years dating, 9 years married, this year. We've both lost a parent, converted from atheism/agnosticism to Catholicism together, lived abroad together, started a farm together, two kids together, had many an existential crisis together, and who knows what's next.. sometimes it's almost shocking to think of the two kids we were when we met, but there's something so sweet in those memories too and I love that we've gotten to do all this together. Marrying young can be a real blessing! It's good to remind people of that! (you have to be a bit impractical sometimes!)
My husband and I married young also. We were both 20 and undergrads in college. Then we had a baby while my husband was a grad student. I became a stay at home mom. We definitely grew up together. Now we have five children. Three are adults in college. We have been married for 29 years!
What a beautiful legacy!
Please tell me you meant wisdom makes the sexiest man and not the sexist!!
I had a professor tell me the same thing. 38 years later, here we are!
Oh my gosh, YES 😆. Thank you! I definitely meant sexiest and have updated the post accordingly. I only wish I could update my reader's inboxes!
I feel that!
Love this! I only ever wish I had met my husband sooner. (Still, getting married at 25 is fairly young these days!) I could write a similar post but on how the old "wait to have children" is, quite often, bad advice.
I married at 24 (my husband was the same age) which to me isn't all that young but apparently others think so!
I think the essential truth here is that marriage always involves a little risk. It's always possible that your spouse will hide something from you or betray you (as scary as that is)! I think most of the objections to marrying young boil down to the reality that people think if they move in together, date for nine years, and keep separate bank accounts, they can somehow outwit human nature and guarantee that their spouse will never hurt them. But you can't. You have to have faith. You have to commit!
Every year I appreciate Charlotte Lucas more: "Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. If the dispositions of the parties are ever so well known to each other or ever so similar beforehand, it does not advance their felicity in the least. They always continue to grow sufficiently unlike afterwards to have their share of vexation; and it is better to know as little as possible of the defects of the person with whom you are to pass your life."
“they can somehow outwit human nature and guarantee that their spouse will never hurt them” - This is such a great insight! I had never thought of it as fear-based behaviour but I can see that on many levels it is.
This is great! I didn’t find my person, my “wise man” until 36- would have loved more years with him, but am grateful for each day now!!
Love your story! So beautiful. Fun to see you all in the same location you took the pic in originally.
And love what you said about holding two things together. Marriage is wonderful and 2 pairs of legs are better than one!
I love this Wendi, so sweet! My husband and I met at 18, we're celebrating 15 years dating, 9 years married, this year. We've both lost a parent, converted from atheism/agnosticism to Catholicism together, lived abroad together, started a farm together, two kids together, had many an existential crisis together, and who knows what's next.. sometimes it's almost shocking to think of the two kids we were when we met, but there's something so sweet in those memories too and I love that we've gotten to do all this together. Marrying young can be a real blessing! It's good to remind people of that! (you have to be a bit impractical sometimes!)
I think this is just wonderful. Thank you.
Wendi I'm trying I promise!